Advice (n.): guidance or recommendations concerning prudent future action, typically given by someone regarded as knowledgeable or authoritative.
Bullshit. The majority of advice is given by people who know as much as the people who seek it (unless you are paying someone–say, a consultant for re-doing your kitchen).
Most people ask for advice from lots of people who know their personal situations because they are hoping to hear what they want to hear. Five people could tell them exactly what they don’t want, but getting confirmation from just one person justifies the actions they want to take. So inevitably they will do whatever they want, regardless of their collected recommendations.
There are those who don’t know what they want, so asking for advice is a way out because they want someone to tell them what to do. Easier than holding oneself accountable, I dare say.
And there are the advisees who truly and legitimately look to advice-givers for guidance. I wonder if those people even exist.
Then there are, of course, the advisors. They know little, a lot, or nothing about what they are talking. They either take their own advice, or never have had to take their own advice, but most commonly it is that they do not take their own advice at all.
I can admit I’ve fit every one of those classifications, but from where I sit, it’s void–rarely does advice-doling make a difference.
If you need to talk about it, then talk about it. But ask for advice with caution and give guidance with a laconic tongue, because often times you won’t like what you hear, and you don’t want to waste your breath on what they don’t want to listen to. And that’s not advice, just my opinion.